Janet Treasure’s book and the related DVD are designed to help carers develop self-reflective skills in order to role model confidence, compassion and courage to take risks, how to experiment with changing caring behaviour so carers can be more helpful to their loved one suffering from an eating disorder.
The DVD was created as a collaboration between the Maudsley and the SUCCEED foundation. It has background learning materials as well as a series of vignettes. The acting isn’t perfect but it illustrates ways of communicating with a loved one with an eating disorder and how to calm things down when anxiety is high.
The SUCCEED website is no longer available and so the Advanced Learning referred to in the DVD can be found at http://thenewmaudsleyapproach.co.uk/Practical_Skills.php
They are in a slightly different format as we are always updating them.
There is also a Youtube of the introduction to the DVD by Janet Treasure at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKAtGSWdt64&feature=em-upload_owner#action=share
And a Youtube showing some excerpts from the DVD scenarios at:
And a Youtube of the Learning section on the animal metaphors at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZWOHC0ICvo (the current batch of the DVD does not play this properly)
The DVD is available from Jenny Langley who will just charge you P&P as most of the content is now on this page
- (165) New Maudsley Succeed Restaurant Part One – YouTube
Anyone caring for a loved one with an eating disorder will know about the challenges of having family meals in restaurants. In this video we see how emotions can quickly escalate and the ED voice ends up having the upper hand. Careful planning for such family events can help to minimise the potential power of the ED voice. Keeping calm and having contingency plans in case things start to go awry are always going to be helpful. Watch part two of the restaurant scene to witness a more successful outcome.
- (165) New Maudsley SUCCEED Restaurant Part Two – YouTube
In this second version of the family restaurant scene, you can see that dad has prepared for his son’s inevitable distress throughout the meal. He uses distractions as well as plenty of empathy, noticing when his son’s anxiety is rising. In addition, mum and Jack have already looked at the menu on line and chosen their meals in advance. There is plenty of non ED talk including around getting a puppy, Jack going to a football match with his dad and brother, and university looming in a few years time. Throughout the scene both mum and dad use plenty of motivational skills to support Jack whilst making sure they are not being over protective
- (165) New Maudsley SUCCEED Carer Respite – YouTube
Carers of loved ones with eating disorders often say that they feel totally alone. The eating disorder takes up all their time and energy and they can quickly become more and more withdrawn. Identifying close others within your friends and family network who are compassionate, can listen non judgementally, and who don’t tell you what to do, can really help to give you some much needed respite. In the first vignette Alice’s friend doesn’t quite get this balance right. In the second she listens carefully, shows great compassion and uses motivational language to help Alice to start to see things more clearly and to visualise a brighter future ahead.