Videos for Carers

In addition to the videos accompanying the New Maudsley worksheets, these are videos that carers find really useful including the ones I have uploaded to Youtube since purchasing the rights to the SUCCEED DVD several years ago. They can be useful to watch on your own, or share with other family members to help them understand more about the emotional rollercoaster that comes to the whole family unit when an eating disorder comes to visit. Many families also watch them with their loved one with an eating disorder as it can open up conversations about how your loved one is experiencing the world right now.

The SUCCEED videos are designed to illustrate how the New Maudsley skills can be applied in a wide variety of settings. Part one of each vignette illustrates common tensions, part two illustrates a much calmer replay.

Brene Brown Empathy vs Sympathy

It is not about the nail – don’t try to FIX

Inside Out – Joy tries to fix it for Bingbong

Laura Hill TED Talk

Recovery Video

Succeed Videos

(165) New Maudsley Succeed Restaurant Part One – YouTube
Anyone caring for a loved one with an eating disorder will know about the challenges of having family meals in restaurants. In this video we see how emotions can quickly escalate and the ED voice ends up having the upper hand. Careful planning for such family events can help to minimise the potential power of the ED voice. Keeping calm and having contingency plans in case things start to go awry are always going to be helpful. Watch part two of the restaurant scene to witness a more successful outcome.

(165) New Maudsley SUCCEED Restaurant Part Two – YouTube
In this second version of the family restaurant scene, you can see that dad has prepared for his son’s inevitable distress throughout the meal. He uses distractions as well as plenty of empathy, noticing when his son’s anxiety is rising. In addition, mum and Jack have already looked at the menu on line and chosen their meals in advance. There is plenty of non ED talk including around getting a puppy, Jack going to a football match with his dad and brother, and university looming in a few years time. Throughout the scene both mum and dad use plenty of motivational skills to support Jack whilst making sure they are not being over protective

(165) New Maudsley SUCCEED Carer Respite – YouTube
Carers of loved ones with eating disorders often say that they feel totally alone. The eating disorder takes up all their time and energy and they can quickly become more and more withdrawn. Identifying close others within your friends and family network who are compassionate, can listen non judgementally, and who don’t tell you what to do, can really help to give you some much needed respite. In the first vignette Alice’s friend doesn’t quite get this balance right. In the second she listens carefully, shows great compassion and uses motivational language to help Alice to start to see things more clearly and to visualise a brighter future ahead.