Carer Skills Workshops for Parents and Carers
based on The New Maudsley Method, Skills Based Learning for Caring for a Loved One with an Eating Disorder
Janet Treasure’s Book and the related DVD are designed to help carers develop self-reflective skills in order to role model confidence, compassion and courage to take risks, how to experiment with changing caring behaviour so carers can be more helpful to their loved one suffering from an eating disorder.
The Workshops :
We recognise that family/carers are in a unique position to support their loved one to tackle the Eating Disorder, but are typically excluded from treatment, with the impact of EDs on family often overlooked. In partnership with The Maudsley Hospital, leading ED inpatient and research centre, Beat established a series of ‘Collaborative Care’ skills training workshops based on Janet Treasure’s book, to provide carers with the practical advice and support that is so often requested. Jenny Langley was involved in the pilot of these workshops in Cambridge and has since developed the workshops, now with workbooks to maximise the benefits for carers and their families. She has also written the New Maudsley Training Manual having delivered the workshops for nearly ten years.
The DVD was created as a collaboration between the Maudsley and the SUCCEED foundation. It has background learning materials as well as a series of vignettes. These illustrate ways of communicating with a loved one with an eating disorder and how to calm things down when anxiety is high.
Feedback from carers who have attended in the past has been overwhelmingly positive. Three examples from past series:
“Jenny you are an Angel! When I arrived (at the workshop) I looked around at some haunted faces, heard some traumatic stories, relived my own terror at times, and yet .. your unerring positivity, your calmness, your all-encompassing embrace, your skill, your knowledge and true EMPATHY(!) lifted the darkness and I am sure made everyone feel SO much better. I feel more positive today than I have for ages. It may not last, but that’s Ok because today is good, and tomorrow looks alright too! “
“Jenny has the ability to instill confidence and a belief that there is light at the end of what is a long, narrow, dark tunnel, which we can only reach when we accept that we can guide our loved ones but not solve their problems for them. There was a range of different caring scenarios that Jenny had to cater for in our group but the common theme was our wanting help, and Jenny’s guidance and inspiration was felt and appreciated by everyone there. My thoughts have turned to the session time & time again. I definitely had a eureka moment in that is not about how quickly I want or I think my daughter should recover but about the right rate of recovery for her – and by coincidence she asked me this evening why she wasn’t seeing a faster rate of weight restoration whilst she was eating so much more & I was able to explain the increased metabolic rate and we chatted through your earlier email about the challenges of refeeding!”
“Being in such a warm, relaxed and open environment with people going through such a spectrum of experiences that all shared a common thread was quite humbling. My older daughter’s openness about her recovery from her bulimia was inspirational and gave such hope – as did hearing about your son’s incredible recovery. I’ve already seen my stopping to really listen rather than my talking has made a difference to my younger daughter today too! Whilst I know it is important to take each day as it comes but this evening, I feel optimistic that all will be as it is meant to be. Thank you so so much – you give of yourself to so many of us, but like a ripple in a pond, the impact of your help reaches so far and is felt by so many.”